“Then there is the man you can never stop thinking about. Whenever you see his name, it trips you up. You know he is a symbol of your weakness, your kryptonite. How he rushes in like wildfire and burns through everything you worked so hard to build since he last left you in ashes.”
– Lang Leav
I got talking to my best friend the other day, about this silly thing called ‘Life’. About how she felt like her life isn’t where it should be. Amongst everything else, her main concern was how she always made the wrong choices in case of men. She was more attracted to the guy who wouldn’t get back to her messages than the guy who made the effort to talk to her on Skype while she was away from him. She says that there is no ‘spark’ with the latter. She derived a conclusion on the basis of her past relationships that she is attracted to all the wrong men. This is not particularly alien to all us women, is it? While there are a lot of sensible women out there who know exactly what they want in case of men and everything else and adhere to it, there are a lot of other women who end up falling for the wrong ones. Sometimes I can’t help but wonder, what is it about some men that makes us want them more every time we think about them?
There are some men like that; I like to call them ‘Inaccessible men!’. Simply put, they’re men you want but you can’t have or you know you shouldn’t have. He makes you believe that he likes you and when you just start falling for him he shuns you and tries to play hard to get and then again when you distance away he comes back to you and this is a vicious circle, believe me! What is with these mind games that some men play? It’s like they embed the idea into your brain and leave you wanting it more than ever. As if relationships were a science!
You know deep down inside that you will never have a pleasant future with this man. Every inch of you tells you that it is a mistake and how you would be the one losing out in this game. But, why is it that we always wish for things we can’t have? I think it is the excitement and curiosity of the unknown that is so addictive.
However, “I enjoy the time I spend with him”, “It was something different, he was wild and left me wanting for more” is the justification we give to ourselves! We think that things would become much simpler after meeting this person and after giving him a chance to explain himself; If only it was that easy. If anything, everything feels even more complicated than before. “Why can the answer not be a simple ‘yes’ or a ‘no’?”, we ask ourselves. He says, “We are ‘unofficially’ together”, whatever that is supposed to mean in today’s complex world where emotions have been sucked into the black hole. Why do we still keep going back to this person? Do we not deserve something better? Well, that is a choice that one has to make for themselves.